Comments on: What is My Job As A Parent?

By: Dorcas

Dorcas — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:23:00 +0000

Hi Morty,

Excellent post. I agree that a parent is responsible for ensuring their child has a healthy self-esteem. What a huge responsibility in light of the fact that each child has a divine purpose they must accomplish in life and without self-esteem it is unlikely they will fulfill it. So when parents help their children develop a healthy self-image they are actually helping them live a fulfilling life where they can make a positive impact. I believe parents are supposed to also help their children discover their dreams. talents and personal destiny and then help them protect it. We are supposed to encourage, motivate and support them. My children want to be professional athletes so I make sure they train daily. I also make sure the friends they have are as motivated and driven. It’s no surprise that most professional athletes had someone behind them, pushing them and making sure they stayed on track- someone like mom.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:23:39 +0000

Hi Joey,

You’re welcome. Glad it was useful.

Regards, Morty

By: Joey

Joey — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 16:03:59 +0000

Thanks so much. I usually feel guilty when I impose too much on my kids. Parenting can really be so challenging especially to young kids. Thank you for this blogpost , really.

By: admin

admin — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 16:31:06 +0000

Hi Janet,

There is a difference between beliefs (such as I’m not good enough and life is difficult) and feelings (such as anger and anxiety). This is not merely semantics. They are two totally different phenomena. And for the most part, the beliefs cause the feelings.

Positive feelings about oneself go hand in hand with a high self-esteem, and both come from positive beliefs.

Regards, Morty

By: Janet

Janet — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:15:30 +0000

Hello Monty,
Thanks for your reply. So what you are saying is that it’s not what we feel about ourselves but what we believe about ourselves that is the source of our self-esteem. From beliefs come feelings. Is that not semantics?
I should have clarified my statement about being good to kids. Their self-esteem is the most important thing they have, so we should be conscious of how we behave towards them. We need to ask ourselves does it contribute to positive beliefs about themselves?
Janet

By: admin

admin — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:34:45 +0000

Hi Janet,

Thanks for posting. Just a slight clarification: our lives are not so much the result of how we “feel” about ourselves, but the result of our beliefs, which are the major source of feelings.

And being good to kids can mean a lot of different things to different people. Specifically, help them form positive beliefs about themselves, people, and life.

Thanks, regards, Morty

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:35:26 +0000

Thank you Morty for this post. This is my complete and utter belief about how our self-esteem is formed. It helps me to know that I am not alone when I say that
‘every thought that we have, every feeling that follows, every decision we make, every action we take and every result we experience is a direct result of how we feel about ourselves”. And as you say, it is all because of the meaning we give to the occurrences in our early lives. Let’s be good to our kids and ask questions later.

By: Morty Lefkoe

Morty Lefkoe — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:43:23 +0000

Hi Patrice,
If my blog post helps just one parent focus more on the beliefs their children are forming, it would have been well worthwhile. Thanks for your note. Regards, Morty

By: Patrice

Patrice — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:13:50 +0000

thanks for this one..my daughter is 5 and is rather independant…I find myself saying the wrong things some times and I have to stop and breath and let her know how wonderfule she is and that she is the most important person in my life